Most people live their lives with regrets because they do not dare to step outside their comfort zone and go for their dreams, getting blocked by different kinds of imaginary fears that haven’t happened yet. There are different kinds of blockages people put against their own happiness and truth is nobody likes to fail. But if we see failure as a necessary experience and an opportunity for growth, everything changes.
To some people, success looks scarier than failure. The fear of success is directly connected to not feeling worthy of receiving the good things life has to offer. Being afraid of negative consequences as a disappointment or emotional punishment in case we don’t achieve our goals. Getting what we want might often look scary, too big or too much.
So, what to do when you are afraid?
The main tendency would be to suppress your fear and pretend it doesn’t exist. However, my coaching experience in working with fears has shown me more than once that trying to suppress the fear doesn’t work. That would be a superficial, surface-only treatment because, in reality, the mind is always creating new fears.
The best results I’ve gotten in my practice have always come from letting the clients be aware of their fears and make friends with them. Thank their fears for trying to keep them away from failure and step outside of their comfort zones instead. Kind of “thanks fear, but no thanks, I have other plans with my life”.
Sometimes, you only have to take the first small step.
I am inviting you to watch this video about the fear of success and be aware that fear is always trying to protect you and keep you safe from risk. If anything you want to achieve ever looks “scary”, take it as a good sign!
If your dreams do not scare you a bit, it means they are not big enough. And keep in mind that, in everything you do, there’s always for you a risk to succeed!
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- Posted by Sara Fabian
- On August 13, 2016