“What Is Love?” – is one of the most frequently asked question ever. We find it in books, song lyrics, movies and in our everyday life.
We often get into the trap of expecting our life partners to make us happy. But here’s what I’ve learned: if I expect my husband to bring joy into my world, I turn him into my prisoner. I start setting expectations for whom I would want him to be and what I’d want him to do or say, so I can get my needs met. If I expect him to complete me, I am incomplete. When I hold him tight to me and control him, it’s not him I fear I might lose; that’s the risk of me getting miserable and lose the very source of my happiness.
In reality, the only person in charge of my happiness is me, and everything else is a bonus. When I feed my soul with self-love and keep my cup full, I don’t need other people to fill it up for me.
Real love builds on a partnership. Two individuals who are already whole and complete have no fears. They get together with the purpose of creating new life experiences, not for using each other as an external tool to fulfill their own wants and needs.
“Love can never possess. Love is giving freedom to the other. Love is an unconditional gift; it is not a bargain.” – Osho
I am inviting you to watch the below video to discover the difference between lust (the first, sex-driven phase of a romantic relationship) and love (the intimate soul connection based on mutual support and a trustful, open communication). True love is the glue that keeps long-term relationships together, happy and thriving.
“You don’t have to have lust without love or love without lust. They don’t have to be mutually exclusive in your relationship.”
In this video, you will also learn 3 useful habits that can help you recreate the lustful desire in your loving, long-term relationship with your life partner.
Wishing you much love,
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- Posted by Sara Fabian
- On May 6, 2017