Perfection is nothing but pure fiction, an illusion created by our minds. It’s also a learned practice. Most of us have been raised to improve our flaws and limitations. Become better people, and get to grow into “the best version of ourselves.”
Often cases, we got punished by family or the schooling system for not getting good enough grades or not performing according to other people’s expectations. And sometimes even for our rebellion against different society-imposed norms and regulations.
No wonder we keep trying to get perfect and faultless, once we grow up. It feels like a never-ending competition with ourselves.
And here I am, in my 40s, still reading about self-improvement and infinite ways for me to become my best self. With so much need for improvement in the personal development industry, I wonder when I am ever supposed to turn into the best version of myself and find peace.
So here’s what I’ve decided:
I stopped competing with myself. I refuse to fight against myself so that I can reach the end of the tunnel and wait for the magical day when I get perfect and faultless.
If I am to spend my precious time waiting to grow into my best Self, I will always feel incomplete. There will always be something to change, add, fix or transform so that I could finally feel whole and complete.
I celebrate both success and failure because this is what makes me wiser. I treat every life experience as an opportunity for me to learn new things about myself and other people.
I have learned to forgive myself for my mistakes in the same way I forgive others, knowing I am also human.
I suggest you also try out this exercise and decide to stop competing with yourself. Accept and approve of yourself as you are, knowing that you will rise and sometimes fall, and that is okay.
See yourself as enough and worthy of the best things life has to offer (loving relationships, financial abundance and a job you enjoy) without fighting to deserve such a treat from life.
Life doesn’t have to be such a daily struggle. Know it is your birthright to be happy, only because you are human, and you don’t have to own your happiness by how good you do things in life. As Wayne Dyer was saying, “you are a human being, not a human doing.”
I embrace the entire repertoire of my humanity with self-love and self-compassion. I choose not to be “work in progress.” I am enough and worthy, whole and complete, only because I am human.
If you know other women who might benefit from this information, please share. Thank you.
- Posted by Sara Fabian
- On June 16, 2018